When most people think of ADHD, the image that often comes to mind is of a hyperactive young boy struggling to sit still. But Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is far broader than this stereotype, and it affects women just as significantly. Unfortunately, ADHD in women often goes unrecognised or is diagnosed later in life, leading to years of unnecessary struggle.
At The Therapy Company, we understand the unique challenges women with ADHD face. By increasing awareness of how symptoms appear in women and tailoring support accordingly, we can help individuals lead more balanced, fulfilling lives.
ADHD: A Neurodevelopmental Condition
ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder characterised by symptoms such as inattention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity. These symptoms stem from differences in the brain’s regulation of attention and behaviour.
For women, these neurological differences may influence cognitive processes in unique ways, affecting careers, relationships, and emotional wellbeing. Understanding these gender-specific challenges is the first step toward effective treatment.
Why ADHD Symptoms in Women Are Often Missed
ADHD tends to look different in women than in men:
- Men: often present with outward hyperactivity and impulsive behaviour.
- Women: more likely to internalise symptoms—leading to disorganisation, daydreaming, low self-esteem, or anxiety.
Because these signs can appear subtle, they are frequently dismissed as stress, personality traits, or even laziness. As a result, many women only receive a diagnosis in adulthood, after years of coping alone.
The Social Pressures on Women with ADHD
Beyond the condition itself, social expectations amplify the challenges:
- Women are often expected to juggle multiple roles: caregiving, professional responsibilities, household management.
- Symptoms such as forgetfulness, disorganisation, or emotional sensitivity may be judged harshly.
- This leads to increased stress, anxiety, and feelings of inadequacy.
Recognising these pressures helps professionals provide more compassionate, holistic care.
Core Symptoms of ADHD in Women
ADHD symptoms appear in three main areas: inattention, hyperactivity (often mental rather than physical in women), and impulsivity.
Inattention
- Daydreaming rather than overt distraction.
- Struggling to stay organised or complete tasks.
- Losing items frequently.
- Difficulty following conversations.
Impact: Women may feel constantly behind, overwhelmed, or judged as careless—when in reality, these are neurological symptoms.
Hyperactivity (Mental Restlessness)
- Racing thoughts and difficulty relaxing.
- Feeling constantly overwhelmed by competing responsibilities.
- Taking on too much and struggling to prioritise.
Impact: Unlike the physical restlessness seen in boys, women often experience mental hyperactivity, leading to stress and exhaustion.
Impulsivity
- Speaking without thinking or interrupting conversations.
- Making quick decisions without considering consequences.
- Emotional outbursts or heightened sensitivity.
Impact: Impulsivity often affects emotional regulation, creating difficulties in personal and professional relationships.
Emotional Impact and Co-existing Conditions
Many women with ADHD internalise symptoms, resulting in:
- Persistent feelings of inadequacy.
- Anxiety and depression.
- Perfectionism as a coping strategy, often leading to burnout.
ADHD often coexists with other mental health issues such as eating disorders, anxiety, or mood disorders. This overlap makes accurate diagnosis even more challenging.
Why Diagnosis in Women Is Overlooked
Several factors contribute to underdiagnosis:
- Gender roles – behaviours like disorganisation are dismissed as personal failings.
- Masking – women develop coping strategies (e.g., perfectionism, overworking) that conceal symptoms.
- Overlap with other conditions – anxiety or depression may overshadow ADHD traits.
Without recognition, women may endure years of unmanaged symptoms, damaging self-esteem and wellbeing.
Steps Toward Diagnosis
If you suspect ADHD, a professional assessment is crucial. This usually involves:
- Clinical interview with a psychologist or psychiatrist experienced in adult ADHD.
- Questionnaires assessing behaviour across different settings.
- Input from family or colleagues to provide context.
- Symptom diary to track patterns, triggers, and daily struggles.
At The Therapy Company, we offer confidential assessments and support, ensuring women feel heard and validated throughout the process.
Coping Strategies for Women with ADHD
While professional treatment is essential, practical coping strategies can help women manage symptoms daily.
- Organisational tools: planners, apps, reminders to track appointments and tasks.
- Mindfulness practices: meditation, breathing, or yoga to calm racing thoughts.
- Breaking tasks into steps: prevents overwhelm and improves focus.
- Prioritising self-care: balanced diet, exercise, and good sleep hygiene.
- Setting realistic goals: avoids perfectionism and burnout.
Treatment Options
Managing ADHD effectively often requires a multifaceted approach:
- Medication – stimulants or non-stimulants to improve focus and reduce impulsivity.
- Therapy – Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to challenge negative thought patterns and develop coping skills.
- Lifestyle adjustments – structured routines, exercise, and stress management.
At The Therapy Company, we provide therapy tailored to women, focusing on both the neurological and emotional aspects of ADHD.
Support Networks and Resources
Connecting with others can be transformative. Options include:
- Support groups (local or online) to share experiences.
- Educational resources for women with ADHD.
- Family counselling to improve understanding and support at home.
These networks reduce isolation and foster empowerment.
Why Choose The Therapy Company?
Living with ADHD as a woman can feel overwhelming—but you don’t have to manage it alone. At The Therapy Company, we offer:
- Specialist therapists experienced in ADHD and women’s mental health.
- Confidential, compassionate sessions where you can speak openly.
- Tailored interventions including CBT, coaching, and lifestyle strategies.
- Flexible appointments, both in-person and online.
Our mission is to ensure every woman feels understood, supported, and empowered to manage her ADHD with confidence.
Final Thoughts
ADHD in women often looks different, and without awareness, it can go unnoticed for years. But recognising the signs—daydreaming, disorganisation, racing thoughts, emotional sensitivity—can lead to earlier diagnosis and life-changing support.
By combining professional treatment with practical coping strategies, women can move beyond feelings of inadequacy and embrace their strengths.
👉 If you believe ADHD may be affecting you or someone you love, contact The Therapy Company today. Our experienced team is here to provide clarity, support, and personalised care.